Sorry in advance for all who read this. I am going to VENT. We have a family in our lives that are serious manipulative bullies. It effects my whole family because they have a daughter Jessie's age and son in between Teylor and Kobe's age. It effects Jessie the most, so that's why it is so hard for me to handle. They live right around the corner and our lives are so intertwined that it is impossible to get away from them. I have definitely been the instigator in the relationship. I got too close to the mom/wife as a friend, thinking it would be a rewarding friendship and it has become a nightmare.
There are SO many details, that I couldn't possibly share them all, but I'm losing my mind. I think the only way to get away from the problem is to have a knock-down, drag-out fight where I will get CREAMED. Or, just learn how to deal. So anyone out there reading this pathetic call for help, please give me any and all advice you can muster.
How's your day going?
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I say you cut them off. Break up with them. It's so not worth it to have people in your life that don't lift you up. We had some friends that were sort of dragging us down so we had a DTR, vented a bit, told them how it was and they didn't like a lot of what they heard but in the end we just decided to keep our distance and things are great. I feel good about the fact that they know how we feel about them now. We think they're great but we had some problems with some things, mostly a result of us becoming too close to them, and things are so much better now.
I know you are right, Jen! Thanks for the comment.
By the way - what's a DTR? It sounds like just what I need to do.
WRITE THEM A LETTER!! HA! That seems to be the way I cowardly deal with all my problems. (I've been meaning to blog about all my horrible letters, actually.) Anyway, it saves a face to face showdown, and they have to READ everything you want to say and they can't interrupt. Total control. Maybe that's why I do it. haha Good luck!!
And by the way, I want more details!! Juicy, juicy.
Do it. Faceoff. You have to do what is in the best interest of you and your family. Its not worth it to put up with people that use and manipulate you.
Be strong.
What happened to my comment? Did you delete it or didn't I publish it???? Hope things get a bit better each day!
I never saw a comment from you. Things are definetely getting better each day. yeah!
Yeah ... I've done the letter thing a few times. Hmmmmm ... it certainly works. :)
Glad things are going better. Why do people have to be so weird? Why can't they just be normal ... like us? Tyler and I say that to ourselves quite often - VERY theraputic. hahahahaha.
Jaime, you are a saint. I would just start avoiding and if she asks you why, tell her. Good luck.
You probably won't read this because this is an old post and I am just catching up. But, I am dying to know the details!!! I am a great fighter behind closed doors but cannot handle face to face confrontations. I usually end up apologizing then hating myself. The only thing that works for me is the "ignore" thing. I have a friend, whose daughter was friends with hillary for years until they went their own ways to persue different interests. her mom obsesses over her kids accomplishments over anything else even if it means doing their homework etc so they get an A. Anyway, she would call me constantly telling me how amazing her daughter is, how much FUN she was having at BYU and what a SHAME it was that hillary wasn't as social as her daughter and how HER daughter didn't have a steady boyfriend, unlike Hillary yadayadayada blah blah. So I finally stopped answering her calls, stopped returning her calls and when I did, it was short and to the point and didn't chat. It took awhile but she got the hint and now she doesn't call anymore. Hillary does the same with the daughter and we dont' have an issue. But being in the same neighborhood etc would be much harder. I say hire at hit man to have them knocked off.
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