I have had the hardest time getting Teylor to clean her room without a fight. I have threatened, taken away toys, grounded, you name it. Well, tonight I got it. I asked her to get her room clean and she instantly started crying, yelling at Kobe, tattling non-stop and all together being a big BRAT (and all of this while I'm trying to give a piano lesson, of course). I dealt with her as calmly as possible until my piano student left and then it hit me. Why do we let our kids do gymnastics and dance? To get them to love it, so we can take it away. haha - not really. I sat her down and told her that gymnastics and dance are priveledges and that if she acts like this anymore than she will lose them. So tonight I kept her home from gymnastics. You would think the world ended. She is so desperate to go, she is trying everything possible. She has told me, "You aren't the best mom I thought you were." and "When I tell you to take me, you do it!", and "I don't want you to be my mom ANYMORE!" WOW. Jessie is so loving this because it's usually her wigging out. She and I butt heads so much, it's not hard to practice tough love on her. But Teylor? I don't have to do this very often (obviously I shoulda done) and it is HARD! It just stinks to be a parent sometimes, that's all.
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people should post things like this more often so that I know what to do when my litle rugrat grows up! how does one figure out how to be a parent!?! everytime i've ever been around your kids they have been wonderful. something you are doing is working :)
Hopefully this will be the last time she'll have to miss gymnastics and you'll have a happy Teylor with a clean room from now on.
Parenting is hard.
It's hard to believe my sweet Tey could ever be a brat. It's good to see, however, that parenting frustrations are universal. If you let them have natural consequences they will learn. You are a wonderful mom! Aren't you glad that she would never dream of stealing the car and driving to Appleby's. That recent news story cracked me up. What was that 6 year old thinking?
Jaime - you DO have wonderfully, well behaved kids! Way to stick to a consequence. That's the hardest EVER. It'll pay off.
Me and Marissa really butt heads, too - most of the time.
This song is awesome. I've never played a Ravel piece. I remember the pianists in college that did, though - I was always very impressed with them. HARD!!!!
Was there REALLY a 6 year old that stole and drove a car? I canNOT even imagine that!
Piano lessons and raising kids at the same time = endless treats and tv (or a public fight). Hahahaha ... not always - but WAY too often! :)
I can't believe Tey would be naughty either! She's always so sweet! Your good to stick to your word - that's so hard - especially when they hate you for it. But it really does make them learn.
Way to go Jaime. I think it is important for kids not to take things for granted like dance and gymnastics, especially when they won't clean their room. I'm amazed that she told you that when she tells you to take her, you will do it. Wow! That would be the end of gymnastics in my hard hearted world. You're much more patient and loving than I was.
After a while, mom and I gave up on the clean rooms and just decided not to visit the rooms anymore. That worked really well.
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